In the eyes of the boy, I am everything. I know everything. Can do everything (except build snowmen). My kisses heal wounds. My breath in the night scares away the darkness. My hugs bring him home.

I carried him then, gave him life. Nourished his body with mine. Carry him still.

To me he can say, “I love you, too” even when I haven’t said it first, because sometimes love is unspoken.

In the eyes of the boy I am perfect.

In the eyes of the man, I am the other half. The other half of one whole.

I offer what I can and he takes it, adds to it and makes it more.

If I need help I can ask for it and he gives it. Sometimes I can’t ask for it and he gives it anyway.

I have said, “I’m sorry.” And he has said, “There are no conditions.”

In the eyes of the man I am perfect in my imperfection.

To me, the boy is life and light and lilting laughter. He is me and he is the man: he is the poignancy of potential. He’s also his own person and don’t you dare mess with that.

He is perfect.

To me, the man is the source of much of the best of the boy. He is more – much more – than I knew when I met him. He is my patience and my strength. He is rational when I’m not. He laughs when I can’t.

He is love, and love is perfect.

I’m lucky to have them, these two. My two.




  1. Beautiful. Absolutely beautiful.

  2. The Bearded Iris says:

    Simply beautiful!

    My favorite line: "My breath in the night scares away the darkness." My youngest is almost 4 and he sneaks into bed with us every night. I know I'm supposed to march him right back into his own bed, but I just can't. He's my third and final baby and it is actually HIS breath in the night that scares away the darkness for me. He's my last chance to get mothering thing right. Oy, the pressure.

    • MamaRobinJ says:

      Just catching up, but I hear you on the point about getting this mothering thing right. Totally. That feeds into my desire to have another baby, which is really a whole post in itself 😉

  3. Ooooh! This one is a gift. Have to go, I am crying.

  4. OK, this confirms it. You DO deserve both Rich and Connor and they DO deserve you.
    You are a complete family and from the outside looking in, almost perfect. I know, I know….. nothing is perfect but I've told this to Rich for a long time…… he is a very lucky man to have you and your love. Now I'm positive of that.
    Happy Valentines Day sweet Robin…… enjoy every moment of it for this is the first one of the rest of your life!!!!!!

  5. I am going to print this one out. It has the perfect words in each sentence. Written with so much love and caring!

  6. Your mom isn't the only one you've made cry this morning. Robin, that was beautiful.

  7. This may be the best piece you've writen! Simply perfect

  8. What a beautiful ode love. Happy Valentine's Day my dear friend.

  9. I love this!!

    Mommies can do everything. And so can wives.

    Happy Valentine's Day!

    I like the new blog name too. :)

  10. So beautifully said.

  11. This is so nice, it makes me really think beond your words. I don't know what to say anymore. Wow.

  12. Perfect!

  13. CHESTERRIFIC says:

    Such a beautiful post. I love that your little fam is your Valentine … just how I feel!

    Hope you had a nice week! :)


  14. Yep…you got me too! Thanks so much for sharing with us!

  15. Loved this when I first read it and still do. It's my favorite!!

    I'm your biggest fan and do proud if you!

  16. mysoulforsale says:

    This really is so beautiful. It's a poem, or at least that's how it felt while I read it. This is a real gift you've shared with the world. Good for you for giving it!

  17. Rosemary Malowany says:

    Going through some of your older posts now, and I am in love with this one. You are an amazing writer Robin. And I am so happy the three of you have each other. x


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