Goodbye Wedding Ring

This is a public service announcement for all pregnant women: Remove your wedding ring lest it be removed for you.

Yes, I learned this the hard way.

If you were on my Facebook page over the weekend you would have seen this drama unfolding, and here, just for kicks, is photographic evidence.

The ring as it is now:

wedding ring after being cut off

Unfortunately the cut is right in the middle of the engraving on the inside. We had Qui Sono Felice (Here I am happy) engraved in our rings and poor Felice is now on her own, relegated to happiness without her neighbouring words. It was a clean cut, though, and should be able to be fixed when the time is right.

My finger was pretty angry afterwards:

swollen finger after wedding ring cut off

Which is probably because holy mother of God does it ever hurt to have a ring stuck on a swollen finger. And it hurts worse to have it cut off. But I had tried everything else — my kitchen was a veritable arsenal of ring-removal tools, including olive oil, lotion, soap, Windex, aloe, saran wrap, dental floss, ice, a bowl of cold water – the list goes on and on — and nothing had worked. I think it just got more sore in the process.

I didn’t really see this coming, because I didn’t have to take off my rings last time and my fingers aren’t actually noticeably swollen. I only noticed because my finger was feeling irritated, and I suspect it had been too tight and stuck for a while.

I’m less sentimental about getting it cut off than I would have thought. Probably because the damn thing just needed to come off. Unfortunate, but there you go.

My husband, bless him, just wants to know if we’re still married.


 

Comments

  1. I’m so sorry Robin, but glad that it should be an easy fix! I took mine off at 33 weeks and replaced it with a $20 sterling silver band. My toe ring, however, suffered the same fate as your ring. My husband got a sick pleasure from taking pliers to my toe.

    • I’m sure he did! ;) But what a great idea to replace the ring with something else. I might have to do that – not sure I can make it 11 more weeks without a wedding ring of some sort.

  2. First of all, what a fabulous engraving. Secondly– ughh, yuck. So sorry you had to do this. I suppose the silver lining is that you might get to go jewelry shopping after the baby comes :)

    • Nah. It can be fixed so I’ll probably just do that. I’d love a new ring, but I do want to keep this as my wedding ring – sentimental that way.

  3. Am glad it’s off!

    At least it can be fixed. I never wore mine much except if I went out and halfway through my second pregnancy, I wore it and it felt tight. Got home, took it off and a couple of weeks later, looked in my ring box where I always put it back and IT WAS NOT THERE.

    I still haven’t found it. So PSA for all occasional wedding ring wearers (Just me?), don’t be a doofus!

    • That sucks. :( I remember you mentioning that but I’m sorry you never found it. I lost a ring once – years and years ago. I remember exactly where I put it too, but never saw it again. Where do they go?!

  4. Ouch. I did see your status and I sympathize. The same thing happened to me many years ago on an overseas trip. My fingers swelled (maybe b/c of the plane ride? The heat? Who knows.) and the ring my parents bought me for graduation wouldn’t budge. Trying everything to get it off made it so much worse. Finally my finger started turning purple and that’s when I got it cut off. The ring, that is. It was such relief. The ring got repaired. I still have it.

  5. gfunkified says:

    Oh, man! I hope you can get it fixed good as new later. My husband would have the same thoughts…he doesn’t like me to take mine of to get in the shower. :)

    • Mine takes his off at night, but I never have. Just wore it all the time, which is probably why I didn’t notice it getting tight.

  6. Oh, sweetie!
    I took mine off because my hands were swelling at 27 weeks and change… I took them off on Monday… Max was born that Thursday… I’ve thought over and over how glad I am that I’d taken them off that morning…

  7. Boo! No fun. But, I’m glad they were able to get it off with a clean cut and no major damage to your finger. That would have been worse. I didn’t swell with Noah, but I’ll be keeping an eye out for this for sure!

  8. Awwww, that’s too bad!!! A few friends of mine had to take their rings off during pregnancy because of swollen fingers. I didn’t have an issue with my pregnancies. I guess it’s something to pay attention to, though! Thanks for the PSA. :)

    • Good to be aware! I honestly never even thought about it because I didn’t have any issues when pregnant with Connor. Oh well, live and learn…

  9. Ouch! I hope your finger feels better, though. And tell the husband you need a new ring to still be married. :)

    • Ooh, maybe I can get a new one until after babe is born… I do want to keep mine, but it feels odd not to have one on. New bling would solve that. :)

  10. My mom is an OB nurse and made me paranoid about my rings. Apparently they cut off a lot of rings for c-sections. I unfortunately got so out of the habit of wearing it I forgot to ever start again.

    • I’m worried that will happen to me too. I stopped wearing my engagement ring a while ago (pre-pregnancy) because it, ahem, didn’t fit anymore. So easy to not get back in the habit, but for now I do miss my wedding ring.

  11. Ouch.

    Hope you get a new ring (after the baby comes, of course.)

  12. Leighann says:

    Glad that your finger is ok but heartbroken for your ring.

  13. Happened to me too (I wasn’t pregnant though).

    It was one of my mother’s and the hospital made me sign a waiver and I’m a Canadian like you!? Glad that all turned out as it should. Well, minus the ring part…

    I’ve been a fan of your site for a while and wanted to pass on the “Liebster Award”. Because from what I’ve read, you’re way more “Liebster” then me (smile).

    I hope that you will stop by for a visit, read and pass on the award. You can find my post here, http://www.journeysofthezoo.com/2012/07/liebster-award-recipient.html

    Besos, Sarah
    Zookeeper at Journeys of The Zoo

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